It doesn't look how I want it to look today...

I used to practice asana more often than I do now. I used to be stronger and have more endurance. I used to be more flexible. My right hip and wrist didn't used to speak to me quite so loudly as they do today. I used to have a core like a tree-trunk.... The list can go on--if I let it.

The truth is, I'm human. Congratulations. My body and my practice have changed, are changing, and will continue to change as long as I'm alive...and that's a good thing. When I can peel myself away from the movie which tells me I should be this or I used to do that for just long enough to catch a breath, I am reminded that all that stuff in none of my business. If my heels do or don't touch the ground in Adho Mukha Svanasana (Downward-Facing Dog) is really none. of. my. business. My business is to practice the asana with sincerity and the rest will be however it is.

Sometimes I try to fight that and I am inclined to push, pull, or yank my way into a posture but each time I am swiftly and lovingly reminded that is not where I am at that moment. It's a great experience when I remember to let go and just be in the pose--and I am grateful to hear reminders from teachers to do just that--but sometimes I don't listen and I try to live in the past or in the future. And, go figure, those are the times when I find my thoughts, breath, and practice in general to be disorganized and clunky.

On the occasions that I am able to take a step back and breathe into a posture, however, my body, breath, and mind fall into a beautifully choreographed ballet. I close my eyes and inhale. I can feel my heart lift and my sacrum point to the floor. My toes wiggle into the mat. As I exhale, my shoulders fall down away from my ears and my chin rests easy. Samasthithi (Equal Standing).

I inhale and lift my arms out to the side and up over my head and just as my fingertips touch, my gaze meets my thumbs and I can float inside my inhale. Exhaling, my arms open to the side and down to the ground as my body folds in half, chin to my chest and fingers to my toes. Feeling myself empty, I enjoy the stretch of Uttanasana (Forward Bend).

As I inhale my heart reaches forward as my gaze lifts to the sky, fingers grazing the ground in Adrha Uttanasana (Half Forward Bend) and I exhale back into the fold and jump back and down into Chaturanga Dandasana (Four-limbed Staff Pose), letting go of the stale breath and thought that interferes with my conscious contact to my practice and the universe.

I inhale from my toes and roll forward and through into Urdhva Mukha Svanasana (Upward-Facing Dog) where I receive new breath and new ideas. As I exhale and lift from my root, I press back and crawl into Adho Mukha Svanasana and I let my body find the pose on its own. Breathing five full breaths in this posture is one of the most direct ways I have ever experienced to dial-in to what is going on in my body and with my thoughts at that very moment. It reminds me to be present and to be grateful and to be patient.

I inhale and fill my body with new breath which I use to jump my feet back up to meet my hands on an exhale. As I inhale, my chin stays in and my arms reach out to the side and rotate up together to meet in Urdhva Hastasana (Upward Hand Pose). I exhale back to Tadasana (Mountain Pose) and feel myself connected still and once again.

When I put it that way, that looks exactly how I want it to look today...

On this day...
In this moment...
With this breath....

Namasté

That just doesn't serve me anymore...

I overheard something funny at work today. Without boring you to tears with the technical details, a co-worker was upset about a thing that was set to install on his computer at a time he deems inconvenient. We received notices and were asked not to postpone the installation; he tried to postponed the installation and it installed anyway. He wasn't ready for it and it changed his productivity for about an hour. I then overheard him irritatedly recount the story to several of his co-workers and I noticed something: each time he told the story he sounded more and more irritated.

I noticed how that simply doesn't work for me anymore. There are many people in my life who try and help me remember to find the positive and to stay in the solution rather than the problem and that, ultimately, the way the world works isn't up to me. The more I am able to remember that, the easier it is for me to be OK with losing an hour of my morning to some installation for which I am due.

I am truly grateful for these people in my life--both sets remind me how powerful it is to simply choose to let go of the baggage that brings me down. The former does this by live and active example; I would rather not spend my morning being irritated and drafting an angry email if I can possibly avoid it. The latter does it in a more gentle and constant reminding way by not allowing me to sit in "poor me" when the solution is sometimes just to stop letting it get to me.

I look back at when the slightest upset in my plan wound me into a tizzy (sometimes I only have to look back about 5 minutes!) and I wonder how I was able to change my perspective. Practice, I suppose, is the best answer. That and a belief in the knowledge and realization that most things in life aren't up to me. Sometimes I really want them to be but my own experience has proven to me time and time again that they just aren't. And since they aren't up to me, my tizzy-ing has no effect on their outcomes but are rather just for my benefit. From there, I (slowly) learned that being in a tizzy isn't actually beneficial to my emotional and spiritual well-being and so if I just stop and go with the flow, things can get a lot easier.

This works for a lot of things, by the way. People treating me a certain way doesn't work for me anymore and so I create boundaries where I can and remove people from my life when that's the answer. Gossip doesn't feel as good as it used to and so I don't have to participate in a conversation if it turns down that road or I can even walk away from it altogether. Not paying my bills on time leaves me feeling unsettled these days and so I pay them when they are due. The same can be said for anything I do--or used to do--that doesn't work anymore. No matter what behavior it is, I can usually find a way to behave differently so I don't feel out of sorts.

Sounds easy enough that I didn't believe it could be true at first. They'd tell me to "choose to be happy" or some baloney like that and I shook my head because they just didn't understand. But after awhile I tried it. It works. I can choose to let things continue to upset me or I can choose to accept the outcomes I face in daily life. Try it. Next time something over which you have no control doesn't go the way you want it to, let yourself get irritated for a minute and then see what happens when you remind yourself that it's not up to you; that you have the choice to let it go and be at peace. The first time will be clunky...the second time maybe less so but after awhile, you'll find that quiet and slightly knowing smile resting on your face most of the time.

Life is just so much more comfortable for me when I'm not trying to force my way through it. It's relaxing to be relaxed even when things around me aren't what I think of as my ideal. "Freedom is not shelter from the storm but serenity within it," my guru used to remind us. For me, the freedom comes from letting go of behaviors and attitudes when I realize they just don't serve me anymore. Serenity is the result...and it's priceless.

A Whole New Today; A Whole New Tomorrow...

“Just for today...”

“Practice the posture...”

“Follow your feet...”

There are myriad sayings that remind us to stay in the present. Even in my yoga practice I repeatedly remind and am reminded to be present with my breath and to stay in the pose. Yet even after all of these reminders—on and off the mat—I find it still so easy to slip into tomorrow. It's so comfortable to try and figure out what tomorrow will bring when, really, I have no idea what even the rest of today will bring.

When I go down to move my laundry from the washer to the dryer it could go smoothly, there might be someone else's clothes in the dryer, or something I can't even imagine could be in place. Silly example, I know, but it works the same with laundry as it does with everything else. I can plan and plan and plan and plan how a presentation, performance, interview, apology, confession, or whatever will go but when it gets to the actual event it's just not up to me. All I can do is be prepared; the rest is up the the Universe.

This doesn't let me off the hook for having to do any work, mind you; it just frees me from having to run the world. It's a relief, actually. The more often I remember that I have the option to stay out of the results the more easily I find I can just do the work. It gives me a chance to more directly focus my energy on the task at hand because I don't have to save any so that I can try to control and manage things I can't control or manage.

Even though I want things to turn out my way, it's just not always going to happen that way. Once I finally understood that, today suddenly took on a new light. The weight of tomorrow was lifted and today became something I could handle. If I have a task that seems too big to even start, it probably is and can be broken down into smaller, on-the-go, bite-sized pieces. It's much easier to enroll in a class or two on a Monday morning than trying to earn an entire degree while I should be working.

I do one thing, then I do the next thing, then I do the next thing until all of those things are done. They don't all have to get done right now. Other things will come up and still others will clear away. The degree to which I freak-out and micro-manage—or don't—is up to me. I'm so grateful that's where my influence ends. I get a new freedom for today and I get a whole new tomorrow.

Just for today, I will practice the posture at hand and I will be where my feet are.

Namasté

Continuous Practice

The thing about Yoga that gives me the most peace of mind is that a pose is never "done". The thing about Yoga that leaves me with the most frustration is that a pose is never "done". And look, that applies to the rest of my life as well.

Sometimes I so dearly want to use yesterday's effort to get credit for today. I made my bed, brushed my teeth, cleaned the kitchen, folded my clothes, updated a spreadsheet, paid a bill, and did some spiritual homework yesterday...and by the end of the day, boy was I tuckered out. And then here comes today and my bed is unmade, my teeth need a brushing, my kitchen is a mess, my hamper is full of clothes, that spreadsheet is now a day old, there's another bill to pay, and I have more reading and writing to do in order to keep myself spiritually balanced.

So I go to Yoga to take my mind off of things and ahhh, yes, here comes my favorite: Trikonasana (Triangle Pose). I got this one down. Ok, step my right leg back and turn it out 45 degrees, check. Reach my left arm forward and start to stack my hips, check. Allow the reach to turn vertical as I stretch my left hand to the floor (or block, as the case often may be), ahhh, there we go. Reach the right arm up as I open at the waist and turn my ribs to the ceiling, yes. Lift up through the thighs and root down through the heels, done. Oh wait, now my foot has slipped and I have some room to adjust it, okay. And now I have more room in my hips to reach my spine long and create space between my hips and my heart, sure. As it turns out, I can also readjust both my standing arm as well as my acting arm, fine. And with all of that, I let go of my thigh and it turns out I can re-engage my right buttock while I'm at it...

I can go through that checklist for as long as I am in the posture--and I can add to it each time. It turns out that what takes my mind off of my revolving to-do list out here in the rest of the world is the fact that I get to replace it with a new continuous list when I'm on the mat. How frustrating. How freeing.

It reminds me that no matter how "done" I think I am, I can always go back and check something else. I always have a choice to be fully involved in whatever it is I am doing. Every second counts--but it only counts for itself. The work I do one day strengthens me for the next day but ultimately, if I wish to maintain a practice and to reap the benefits it provides, each day is a new opportunity. One day, one pose, one breath at a time, I have the chance to work to strengthen my body, mind, and spirit.

The work I did yesterday helps me remember that for today it is a choice; it is a chance; it is an opportunity...

Namaste

Spiritual Aerodynamics

Things don't always go as I plan. I hate when that happens. At first it seems like things would just be so much easier if it all just went according to my great master plan. But sometimes a meeting for which I spent hours preparing is canceled. Or I drop and break my favorite mug and have to either forgo a cup of tea or drink one out of a Styrofoam cup--I chose to go without. Sometimes I plan to go to Yoga after work and end up stuck in traffic or just plain pooped and I don't make it.

"Not according to the plan" can be a good thing also, however. Sometimes a meeting I dread is cancelled. Or someone gives me a gift of a new coffee mug out of the blue. Sometimes evening plans are cancelled and I get to go to Yoga when I didn't expect to be able to.

The point is: my plans mean little to the Universe. My plans about my career, my plans about my stuff, and my plans about my practice...

The good news is: I still get to go to work, I still get to deal with my stuff, and I still get to trudge the road of my spiritual (and physical) practice....

What it means to me is this: there are no big deals. And that's what all of my plan-making not meaning a thing to the flow of the Universe has to do with that nifty term I think I coined.

The idea of no big deals is of great help for me when it comes to both life on and off the mat. Whether it's great news or terrible or something in between it will pass and it doesn't have to be something that will knock me over. Maybe today work was no fun but tomorrow could be different. Maybe I "got" a really tough and fancy posture during Yoga class tonight but that doesn't mean a thing about what my practice will look like tomorrow. Either way, it's just something that happened and there's no reason for my flame to flicker wildly.

At first that sounds kind of boring. As though I have no feelings and nothing but nothing has any effect on me. Believe me, it's not boring. First and foremost because this aerodynamic state of mind of mine is much more theory than practice but also because when I am in that place, it's the greatest place in the world to be. On those occasions when my spiritual practice and connection to the Divine are sturdy enough to hold me up I can be satisfied, fulfilled, and given joy from everything. I hope you can experience it soon. I hope I get to as well...

Namaste

Practicing Patience and Gratitude

I like to rush. Sometimes I forget to say thank you. Pausing is often forgotten. I can often act in a manner which best serves me. That is, of course, unless I am mindful of practicing patience and gratitude. My guru would remind us of this while we were in uncomfortable postures--and now I get to do the same. Holding the pose in Virabhadrasana II (Warrior II) is a great time to remember why I practice yoga. What a good time to remember gratitude for having a car when I am stuck in traffic. How strong a lesson to be patient when I want to find an apartment and move next weekend.

The practice of patience and gratitude is just that: a practice. We forget, we remember, we forget, we remember.... The goal of the practice is that the forgetting happens less frequently and the remembering kicks in a little sooner than it did the last time. When I have tried for anything more, I have become disappointed in myself. From the practice of patience and gratitude comes the gift of being present. I am here now and this is where I am. That alone is a gift and for that I am grateful. The Universe has a map and I can only see what is directly in front of me--for even when I look back my vision is blurry and distorted.

All I need to do is be here. Be here and be grateful. When that becomes my natural state the rest falls into place. Holding the pose becomes an opportunity to mind my breath. Traffic doesn't bother me because I can't be where I'm going until I get there. I have a place to live and all the time in the world for whatever upgrade in living is on the books for me. I am here now. I am grateful now.

On this day...
In this moment...
With this breath...

Namaste

If I’m doing it, then it’s yoga…

I was talking with a fellow yogi today and, about my job, said “well, it’s not yoga, but it’s good for now…” He reminded me that everything can be yoga. He’s right. As a yogi, if I’m doing it, it’s yoga—all that’s required from me is the right intention and mindfulness such as I would bring to my practice on the mat.

During a practice in a class I begin by setting an intention for that practice and then keep ever-mindful of my body, breath, and mind during the practice. Is my big toe grounded to the floor? Is my head on straight? Is my breath even and deliberate? Am I using the sound of the Ujjayi breath to help keep my focus? Am I present or does my mind wander?

Why would that be any different at my job? I can set the intention to be a productive worker today. I can remain mindful of my posture in front of my computer. I can take the time to stretch at my desk when the mouse gets the better of me. I can remember to breathe and drink water. I can be present and not daydream…

As a yogi, I can make it my responsibility to extend my practice into my daily affairs. If I treat life as yoga, yoga continues to grow as my life. Sitting here in “sitting-at-the-computer-asana” or “filing-user-guides-asana”, I can be just as aware of my posture, breath, and intention as I am in Trikonasana (Triangle Pose) or during Surya Namaskar (Sun Salutation). The choice—as always—is up to me.

Sometimes this is easier said than done—but I suppose that is why we call it our Yoga Practice and not our Yoga Perfect. Today, I choose to set an intention of grateful action and spiritual mindfulness. Today I choose to focus on the solution to my spiritual condition. Today, I continue to practice yoga in all of my affairs.

If I’m doing it, it’s yoga…